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Time on Hold: Timing is Everything in Life's Waiting Game

Managing Periods of Waiting to Preserve Productivity and Mental Well-being

Waiting is an inevitable part of life, consuming a significant portion of our time. A person spends upwards of 8 years of their lifetime waiting in lines, for appointments, transportation, food, friends and family, and other things. But beyond these measurable activities, we are constantly waiting for various life events, leading to significant anxiety and impacting productivity.


Waiting for things to happen can feel like time is on hold. The profound impact that waiting can have on productivity and mental well-being across various aspects of life cannot be understated. We spend an enormous portion of our lives in this state of waiting and uncertainty. Understanding the effects can help us implement strategies to manage anxiety and maintain productivity during periods of waiting.

  • Decreased Productivity: The mental energy spent worrying about future outcomes detracts from the focus and efficiency needed to complete current tasks. Studies show that anxiety can impair cognitive functions, making it harder to concentrate and process information.

  • Mental and Physical Health Impacts: Chronic anxiety from prolonged waiting can lead to stress-related health issues, including insomnia, headaches, and even heart problems. It also affects mental health, contributing to conditions like depression and generalized anxiety disorder.

  • Diminished Quality of Life: Constant waiting can overshadow present experiences. Individuals might find it difficult to enjoy the moment, leading to a diminished quality of life.


While waiting is unavoidable, it can be used more productively. Practicing mindfulness can help you stay present and reduce anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing and meditation can be particularly effective during waiting periods. Engaging in distractions such as reading, learning new skills, or organizing is also helpful. This kind of thing can make waiting time productive, provide a sense of control, and help you take a mental break from thinking about the thing you’re waiting for. Listening to educational podcasts and audiobooks or trying a new hobby or class can be a great way to utilize this time. In some cases, using waiting time for personal reflection and goal setting can also turn idle moments into valuable opportunities for self-improvement and planning.

If you’re waiting for responses to applications:

Waiting for responses, such as college, job, or grant applications, can cause significant anxiety. This period of uncertainty can be mentally taxing as individuals often speculate on potential outcomes and prepare for various scenarios. Exacerbating the issues is the need to have patience waiting to accept one option when another may be forthcoming from a different institution. Further, having the wherewithal to wait to accept an offer so you can negotiate salary (or financial aid) is challenging, especially if you’ve been waiting a long time for the initial offer. The stress associated with these important processes can lead to heightened anxiety, rushed decisions, and decreased focus on current tasks. Further, it can impair cognitive functions, making it harder to concentrate and process information effectively​ (Psychology Today)​​ (CollegeVine)​​ (AdmissionSight)​.

I am applying for new schooling. My heart is set on one school, but it’s a stretch. And, I have very little (if indeed any) control over whether I will be accepted and when I will find out. I need to regain a sense of control over my own destiny.

Managing the wait:

  • Mindfulness and Stress Management Techniques: Practice mindfulness meditation to stay present and reduce anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and guided imagery can help manage stress. (American Psychological Association)

  • Productive Activities: Use the time to engage in productive activities such as learning new skills, volunteering, or working on personal projects. This can help distract from anxiety and improve your resume. (Verywell Mind) Can you believe I’ve written three (3) blogs in two weeks during this time? It’s given me a sense of productivity and control while waiting for the school to determine my future, which has been critical for my well-being and daily focus.

  • Support Networks: Talking to friends, family, or a counselor can provide emotional support. Joining support groups or seeking professional help can also be beneficial. (American Institute of Stress)

If you find yourself waiting for your turn to speak:

Studies indicate that in conversations, people often spend about 30% of their communication time speaking and 45% listening. However, a substantial portion of this listening time is actually spent preparing to speak rather than actively listening. This impatience can affect the quality of the discussion, leading to misunderstandings and less meaningful interactions, which in turn can hinder effective communication and relationship building​ (American Psychological Association).

This can be hard to avoid during periods of heightened activity and short timelines. It’s easy to fall into the trap of guessing (and assuming) what the other person(s) is going to say and then thinking about our response or even interrupting when we are facing significant deadlines. But it’s imperative to have the discipline to listen – it can lead to better decisions and certainly better long-term working relationships.

The reality is that it’s just a few seconds of your time that you’re giving back to the person with whom you’re speaking. It’s inconsequential from a time-lost perspective, but it will pay dividends in your relationships and alignment efforts if you make it happen.

Managing the wait:

  • Active Listening Techniques: Focus on active listening by giving full attention to the speaker, acknowledging their message, and providing feedback. This can reduce impatience and improve communication quality. (Global Listening Centre)

  • Mindfulness Practices: Practice mindfulness to stay present in the conversation rather than thinking about what to say next. Techniques like mindful breathing can help. (

  • Reflective Listening: Use reflective listening to repeat back what the speaker has said in your own words. This shows that you are paying attention and helps ensure you understand the message. (Psychology Today)

If you’re waiting in anticipation of a major life event:

Significant life events such as marriage, childbirth, or career milestones involve prolonged periods of anticipation and anxiety. This waiting can overshadow present experiences, leading to stress and decreased productivity. The uncertainty of waiting for these events can cause individuals to feel unsettled and preoccupied, which can impact their ability to focus on and enjoy their current activities​ (American Psychological Association)​​ (AdmissionSight)​.

This one can be particularly challenging because it demands long-term planning around the issue at hand. But it can also be easier to manage because you can take specific actions to impact the outcome of your wait and feel empowered to influence what happens next.

Managing the wait:

  • Set Short-Term Goals: Break down the waiting period into manageable chunks by setting short-term goals. This helps maintain focus and productivity while reducing anxiety. (Verywell Mind)

  • Engage in Relaxation Techniques: Practice relaxation techniques such as yoga, meditation, and deep breathing exercises to manage stress and stay calm during prolonged waiting periods. (Mayo Clinic)

  • Stay Connected with Support Networks: Maintain connections with friends, family, and support groups. Sharing your feelings and experiences with others can provide emotional support and reduce stress. (American Psychological Association)

If you’re waiting for project progress:

In professional settings, waiting for project approvals, feedback, or results can vary widely depending on the industry and specific circumstances. This waiting can be frustrating and demotivating, sometimes stalling momentum and decreasing overall productivity. Further, the anticipation of progress or results can create a state of limbo, where individuals feel unable to move forward effectively until they receive the necessary feedback or approval​ (American Psychological Association)​​ (AdmissionSight)​.

This one can be difficult to manage due to a perceived inability to influence the outcome once it’s been placed in other parties’ hands (in my world, it’s a constant wait for FDA approvals). However, risk-mitigating activities can be highly effective and provide a sense of direction, control, and stability in these situations.  

Managing the wait:

  • Develop a Contingency Plan: Create a contingency plan to manage uncertainties. Having alternative strategies in place can reduce anxiety and keep projects moving forward. (Project Management Institute)

  • Focus on Continuous Improvement: Use the waiting period to focus on continuous improvement by learning new skills, refining processes, or addressing minor tasks that contribute to the overall project. (Harvard Business Review)

  • Stay Organized and Prioritize Tasks: Stay organized by prioritizing tasks and creating a to-do list. This helps maintain productivity and ensures that important tasks are not neglected during the waiting period. (Psychology Today)


Waiting is an inescapable part of life that significantly impacts our productivity and mental well-being. To transform the unavoidable waiting periods in life into opportunities for growth and improved mental well-being, it is essential to adopt targeted strategies and a proactive mindset. By integrating targeted strategies into our daily outlook, we can shift our perspective on waiting periods from sources of anxiety to opportunities for personal and professional development. We can reframe our experiences of waiting and use these moments as catalysts for positive change, rather than merely enduring them passively. Embracing this mindset can lead to more fulfilling and balanced lives, where waiting becomes a valuable part of our journey rather than a hindrance.


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